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Summer Family Activities

Here’s some of what we’re doing this summer. Join us!
Deep River

Deep River Water Park

Who: Anyone who enjoys water fun!

When: Wednesday, July 22

Cost: $16.95/person (The little ones under 46” get in for $11.95)

The price is good for groups of 15 or more, but you must RSVP by Sunday, July 19. On August 1, we’ll plan to meet at the church at 9 a.m. and leave by 9:15. There will be some room in the church bus. Please let Pastor Rick know when you RSVP if you would like a seat.

 

Baseball

All Night Church Softball Tournament

We’re looking for guys (age 16 and older) to form a WLFMC team for an all-night tournament, July 31 at the CCAC. The cost is $30. See Pastor Rick with any questions.

 

South Bend Cubs

Take Me Out to the Ball Game

On Saturday, August 8, we’re headed to watch the South Bend Cubbies. This event is for all ages. Tickets are $10. Come out and join us! This is a group rate which includes some extras, so RSVP with Pastor Rick, rick@wlfmc.org.

 



The End of the Busy Season

by Rick Nier

Can we all agree to officially let go of certain phrases? I know everyone likely has their own peeve over a certain word or phrase. One of mine is “this is a busy season for us.”

First of all, I don’t know if you’re referring to season by weather, by sport, or by when all your reports are due. (That’s right students; reports never go away, even after you graduate college. Get used to it.)

I’m not here to judge our busyness. I’m busy, you’re busy, we’re all busy. For families with children, that’s just part of life, even when you limit each child to one extra-curricular activity per season. (Yes, I said season.)

So, if we’re all so busy, how do we do anything?


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Cruise Ship vs. Battle Ship

The similarities between a cruise ship and a battle ship are intriguing.  If you start at the heart of each ship you would find massive engines capable of moving these large vessels thousands of miles across the oceans of the world.  Each can accommodate hundreds of people at one time, feeding them and providing them with all they need to sustain life.


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4 STEPS TO EQUIP YOUR TWEEN AGAINST BULLYING

EquipTweenBullying

Recently our team conducted a session for 11-14 year olds and spent a section specifically addressing online bullying. Unfortunately this issue has become even more rampant since the wave of seemingly “consequentless anonymizers” like Snapchat have taken center stage.

In today’s anonymous world youth are encouraged to dissociate themselves with negative behavior and instead cling to their anonymous label that grants them access to the “waves of culture”. Instead of strength of character we see a growing epidemic of mean behavior amongst those that should be brothers and sisters. We’d like to share a few practical steps you can share with your tween to help them in bullying situations.


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Three Ways I’ve Adapted to Survive Parenting

An article from Jonathan McKee 

Effective parenting requires a hefty learning curve. Today’s parents must observe and adapt to survive. The more I parent, the more I learn lessons the hard way.

The silver lining in this cloud of imperfection is this:I’m gaining more insight each day. In fact, I’ll probably be about halfway there by the time my youngest leaves for college. (I’ll be almost ready for this parenting thing by the time my grandkids arrive!)

This past year has provided plenty of these life-lessons, allowing my wife and I the opportunity to test-drive three parenting practices truly helping us better connect with our daughter.


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Let the Drama Come to You

Patience is a good thing.  It is about more than just waiting.  It is a condition while we are waiting.  I am not sure about the statement, “good things come to them that wait.’  But, I am confident that “good things come to the patient.”  That is true in many scenarios.  Let me give a few.  Don’t pursue or solicit compliments.  Let them come to you.  Don’t run after birds you are trying to feed.  Let the birds come to you- hand extended.  Last year, I had a hummingbird land on my extended finger that was held in place for about 10 minutes.  Don’t pressure people to like you.  Let the relationship come with the long term investment you make.  The list goes on.  Many wonderful experiences come to those who are not forcing or cajoling or manipulating their environment for the experience.  They are not waiting with toe-tapping impatience.  Good things come to those who enjoy the wait.

And, I would say the same about drama. 


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A Theology of Tears

Icry.

A lot.

Jesus wept.

One of these is known as the shortest and most poignant verse of Scripture. The other two are a source of shame.

Why the disconnect?

In theory I totally affirm that tears are normal, healthy and helpful. So why am I so uncomfortable crying in leadership situations? What if others see it as a sign of emotional instability? A lack of self-control?

At a recent Christian event, a leading Christian thinker teared up during his presentation. He described the moment when he realized he had tried to fix a community problem without acknowledging his need for the community. As he did, he cried tears of repentance for assuming he had all the answers. It was powerful. The audience was moved. But when he returned to his seat afterwards, I heard him mumble, “That was embarrassing.”

I leaned over and, with a crooked grin, said, “Welcome to my life!” then pointed out the boxes of tissues I’d already spotted by the stage.

(Some people look for fire exits as soon as they enter a new space. I look for tissues. And when I see them, I know this is a place I’m welcome.)

I was especially comforted by his tears because just that previous Sunday, I’d broken into tears during our Sunday service.


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Anxious Parents Equal Anxious Teens

Kids Who Grow Up With Anxious Parents Take On Their Anxiety

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*The following is excerpted from an online article from Quartz.

A new study from King’s College in London and published in the American Journal of Psychology finds that anxiety is not only genetically passed from parents to kids, but also through exposure to parents’ anxious tendencies.

The study looked at almost 900 families with adult twins, either fraternal or identical, who had children. If anxiety was only a genetic trait, then a child would have the same amount of anxiety as both her father, and her father’s identical twin, because she shares the same amount of both of their DNA. However, the researchers found that children of a twin had more in common with their parent than with their parent’s twin, co-author Thalia Eley tells Quartz.

“The similarity you see within families appears to be largely driven by the fact that they all live together,” Eley says.

There are a few ways this anxiety could be transmitted from parent to child, or vice versa, the study explains. Children might observe their parents’ fear or worries in their actions or overhearing their words, and then adopt those same worries. Another cause could be what the study calls “negative parenting behaviors”—unnecessarily shielding a child from something that a parent fears. Or on the flip side, parents might perpetuate the problem by allowing a child’s existing anxieties, like fear of heights or pain at the dentist, to dictate their parenting choices and allow their child to avoid those experiences, Eley says. A child’s anxiety could even be causing the parent’s anxiety.

“The right thing to do is to help the child have opportunities to take on challenges and tasks appropriate to their age and level of fear,” Eley says, “So they have the opportunity to learn that they can actually cope with this situation after all.”

Eley says this research could have a positive effect on parents in that they’ll know they can help. She advises parents to be aware of their own anxieties so that they can avoid transferring them to kids. For example, if going to the dentist makes you anxious, send your child with your partner so that she doesn’t pick up on those emotions.

Source: Quartz
http://qz.com/403299/study-kids-who-grow-up-with-anxious-parents-take-on-their-anxiety/



Library News

The Patmos Deception is the latest novel from the prolific pen of Davis Bunn. Dealing with an ancient island near Greece that holds an ancient secret brings together a young journalist, yearning for his big break, and a recent graduate in forensic  archeology who considers this particular assignment a dream come true. The island of Patmos where the Apostle John received his vision of the Apocalypse includes some surprises for all concerned and this account will provide some entertaining and informative reading.
Jennifer Chiaverini, author of Mrs. Lincoln’s Dressmaker, has again brought to life in Mrs. Grant and Madame Jule  the account of two women who lived through the turmoil of the Civil War as they, at the behest of General Grant, brought the Grant children back and forth to visit him during the struggles of the ongoing and devastating war. And although Julia Grant championed the cause of abolition, she continued to hold Jule, her long-time maid and companion, as a slave—until the Emancipation Proclamation challenged Jule to take matters into her own hands.
A delightful 4-book series for younger readers by Lauraine Snelling and Kathleen Damp Wright, focuses on the effort of the S.A.V.E. Squad (Sunny, Aneta, Vee, and Esther) to provide  solutions to problems of some animals in their community. Meet Wink, the basset hound, a hissing dumpster cat, a miniature horse who needs a new home, and two injured owls as the girls attempt to solve some serious problems—with unexpected twists and turns.

 



Blank Space

I just know that some of you saw the title and are reading now, hoping for lyrics to a Taylor Swift song. My apologies.

Yes, T. Swifty does have a song titled Blank Space, where she writes about her ex-lovers and the apparent vacancy for the next ex-boyfriend. But I have a different picture of what a blank space can offer.

Blank space offers a space for grace.

I have conversations with people all the time where the unspoken request is for grace. Deadlines weren’t met, relationships need to be restored, wrongs have been committed. While there is certainly an understanding of consequences in most people’s minds, it occurs to me that the blank space we can offer provides a way out.

This way out is not something people immediately consider. After all, what’s done is done and there’s no going back, right? But I see a blank space that says otherwise. New deadlines can be established. Relationships don’t need to remain broken. Wrongs can be made right.

The Church should always have a blank space.

Every school year is a blank space, giving us a new chance to be a student that tries.

Every new job is a blank space, giving us the opportunity to offer our best with a team. 

Every move is a blank space, offering a fresh slate to be who God made us to be. 

But some of us are way past school age. Perhaps a new job is not out there and a move is impractical. What hope is there for us?

Every new day is a blank space. Every new day we awake, we have 12 hours of decisions to make. What will we make of this day? What kind of person will we be?

Every Sunday is a celebration of these blank spaces. We come together, as people of grace. Some of us come feeling more broken than others. Some of us come attempting to fool ourselves and others about our brokenness. Nevertheless, we come. We need the blank space.

We need the healing. We need the restoration. We need the grace. We need to be reminded that there is a blank space. The blank space is not there for our next mistake, but for our name to be written next to Jesus. Since creation, Jesus has had a plan, carried out to perfection.

Next to His Name is a blank space.

 

*Like this? Find more at www.ricknierwoo.blogspot.com where Rick blogs a few times each week.