Parent’s Progress 3.5.15

Each Thursday we provide an article or resource specifically aimed at helping parents in their role. Pastors, youth pastors, and teachers are all here to help and can make a big difference. But we believe the biggest impact comes from home, with Dad and Mom. To that end, here is a newsletter from our friends at Church Family Based Youth Ministry.
Here is their March newsletter.

Breaking News: Christians are Viewed as Hypocrites

People on the outside of the church think Christians are hypocritical. At least, according to one survey*, 72% of people who never attend church think those who do attend church are hypocrites.

Hypocrites! I’ve been called lots of names, but this one, for someone trying to follow God, would have to be the single worst name you could be called. I’m guessing you may have been called names as well. As insulting as any of them might have been, to be told that someone thinks you’re not really doing what you say you are doing would be, should be, near the top.

So, take this stat for what it’s worth, but one study found 72% of people who don’t attend church believe there is a God, but the same 72% also believe the church is full of hypocrites.


Pastor Paul Parker’s Ponderings

One thing being a Pastor for approximately 30 years should teach someone is to be careful what you preach about. I can’t tell you the number of times I have stood in front of a congregation and felt that heart tug that comes with feeling convicted by the words coming out of my own mouth.

I was co-preaching a series on “If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get out of the Boat”, when God began to lay on my heart that it was time to allow myself to become available to the Holy Spirit’s leading. After six years on disability, God was renewing His call in me to return to full time ministry.


New Connection Group Starting

New Adult Connection Group: Beginnings & Endings

Starting Thursday, March 5 at 7 p.m. and led by Del Fisher, this is a new Bible study being offered. Is America in the Bible? How does Israel fit into the picture? What is the meaning of all the Blood Moons? Where did Cain get his wife? These questions and more will be discussed. All are welcome.


5 Ways to Invest in Your Kids


llm-feb15_foundationParenting is hard work. I have six kids, so I should know. However, parenting can be one of the most rewarding endeavors in which we engage. What makes the difference is whether or not we seize the moment and invest.

Deuteronomy 6:5–9 has a few words to say about investing in your kids.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Here are five ways you can begin investing in your children today that will have huge payoffs later:


Connection, Communication, Communion


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Perhaps you have had this experience. You are together with friends and extended family in conversation. But not everyone is there.

A brother serves Jesus in India, and a sister serves at an NGO located in the Netherlands. Not being there, however, is not really a problem. Both brother and sister are still “there” with the help of Skype. Then, during the conversation of all who are “there,” a cellphone rings, and another connection happens. Over the course of the next hour, grandpa receives or sends no less than 67 text messages, various devices notify the group of 15 newsfeed alerts on the latest developments, and others in the family hear a half-dozen other signals or alarms regarding things going on.

No doubt we have more ways to connect with more people than previous generations. No doubt most of us take at least some advantage of the tools and technologies at hand. And yet, some of us feel less connected, less aware and less in touch than ever before.

All connections are not equal.


Handling Social Media with Your Kids


llm-feb15_feature1Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock for the past few years, you’re aware of the rise in popularity of social media with teens.

Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and other social media have become part of the fabric of American youth culture. According to a fall 2014 survey by Piper Jaffray (, more than 90 percent of U.S. teenagers use social media with 76 percent on Instagram, a social network on which users share photos and video. Nearly 60 percent of teenagers use Twitter, which hosts short posts and messages, and 45 percent use Facebook, the world’s largest social network.

Parents have to make choices about whether they will allow their adolescents to use these social media sites. If they allow access, parents must provide both boundaries and oversight. Talking to your kids about social media should be a top priority.


Light & Life Magazine – February Issue

Family Matters

“Don’t mess with the family.”

You’ve probably heard that statement in a mafia movie or television program. I can’t identify with being part of an organized crime syndicate, but I understand the sentiment.

I find it fairly easy to adopt a turn-the-other-cheek attitude (Matthew 5:39) if someone treats me rudely. I struggle to know the correct response if someone mistreats or excludes my son, wife or extended family members. If you have a sibling, you may believe it’s fine for you to tease your brother or sister, but you get angry if someone outside your family treats your sibling that way.


Flying Upside Down

I am flying in a very unusual, and unprecedented way (for me that is).  I fly on airplanes all of the time.  That is not the unusual part.  In fact, I am flying on an airliner today. What is most unusual is my physical condition while flying.  The doctor said that I have a very serious case of labrynthitis or some such word that is related to and more commonly expressed as a form of vertigo.  This is the first experience of this sort for me.  If you have never had it, try to avoid it.  If you have had it, you know the feeling.  In fact, judging from my head movements and feelings, one might think I had some other neurological disorder- with the head movements, rapid eye shifts.  Even walking is a challenge.  Doing a straight line sobriety test would be a sure failure.  I have already had the looks from some folks that say, “My, oh my, look at that man, and it is only 6am.  He has a serious drinking problem.” Fortunately, Marlene is my witness and defender.


MLK and the FMC

One of the most shocking and shameful parts of our history as a church, in my view, is our non-participation AA8dVlv[1](at best) in  and our resistance (at worst) to the American Civil Rights Movement, embodied in the person of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. (When I say “our” I mean especially the majority of folk in the church fifty years ago who were white folk, the group that still represents a majority in our church today).  Actually, it was embodied long before Dr. King in the Person of our Lord Jesus Christ, whom we confessed then and do now to be Lord, and who is himself the in-fleshment of the holiness of God which we believe the Methodist movement in general and the Free Methodist Church in particular has been called to spread across these lands.

I will not belabor the point.  I will not try to explain how this could happen and did happen.